Why Matt James And Rachael Kirkconnell Broke Up

However she did go into what triggered the breakup that “blindsided” her, together with the “pink flag” she mentioned she missed.

“He mentioned that he did not need to dwell collectively till we had been married. He is a really non secular man so I used to be like, ‘That is OK. I can do this.’ However on the identical time I am a little bit confused as a result of we’re nonetheless you recognize touring collectively, staying in the identical lodge and it was like we had been dwelling collectively,” she mentioned.

In hindsight, Kirkconnell mentioned she now believes she was “making excuses” for James.

“I additionally suppose it was me attempting to justify it simply because I did not need to fear like, ‘Effectively, is that this concern of taking the following steps?'” she mentioned.

On the identical time, the previous couple often spoke about beginning a household and had not too long ago mentioned engagement rings.

“(Speaking about rings) was an enormous deal, I’d say. That is once I was like, ‘Wow, OK, he actually is on board with this.’ That was such a inexperienced flag to me,” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell mentioned that talks of marriage “did scare him” at first, making her surprise about the way forward for their relationship.

“I requested myself, ‘Is it me or is it him? Is it one thing that he wants to determine? Is there one thing that scares him? Is there one thing that he went by way of rising up that he has this trauma now, or am I simply not his excellent individual?” she mentioned.

On Jan. 16, James shared an Instagram put up saying his breakup with Kirkconnell after 4 years collectively.

“Father God, give Rachael and I power to fix our damaged hearts. Give us a peace about this determination to finish our relationship that transcends worldly understanding,” he captioned the put up. “Bathe our family and friends with kindness and like to consolation us. And remind us that our Pleasure comes from you, Lord 💔.”

Throughout her look on “Name Her Daddy,” Kirkconnell shared some specifics about how the breakup unfolded.

After getting right into a easy argument, the couple had an extended dialog about the way forward for their relationship.

“It was simply a kind of issues the place he, I feel, simply had this realization that, ‘I ought to need to suggest to you by this time. At this level in our relationship, I needs to be wanting these issues and I needs to be prepared for that however I am not nonetheless. I nonetheless do not feel like we’re prepared or I do not really feel like I am prepared. I do not know if I ever see myself proposing to you. I am unable to really see myself married to you,'” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell advised James that he ought to really feel prepared after 4 years collectively. The couple determined to go their separate methods.

“He simply mentioned, ‘You’re stunning, good and humorous and also you’ll discover somebody. You may discover a man that may love you for you.’ However yeah, he simply did not suppose it was him,” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell mentioned she heard about James’ breakup put up on Instagram from a pal whereas she was on a flight.

“I am freaking out as a result of I simply received damaged up with and now a number of hours later it is for the entire world to see and I am nonetheless attempting to course of it. I am nonetheless in complete shock,” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell additionally had a concept about why James determined to format the breakup put up the best way he did.

“It virtually appeared like saying it like a prayer was the simpler option to say it than to say one thing actual … simply one thing genuine to our precise relationship. But it surely’s very him. I assume it did not shock me that he mentioned it like that. I used to be simply stunned that he mentioned it in any respect, that he posted that,” she mentioned.